Bob.
He was my music teacher.
He called m leather lips because
I could play the trumpet for hours on end… he taught me to write music,
encouraged me to write a musical, made music a part of my life.
Bob volunteered for the infantry
in 1943. Realizing that it takes months
to train a soldier, but years to train a musician – they decided to take this
musician and have him play for the troops… and so he led the Rhythm Rodeo and
toured the bases in Canada and the UK playing for the men and women in
service.
It was Bob who had me play the Last
Post for the first time. It was for a
school Remembrance Day ceremony. He
wrote it out for me in his unique musician’s hand; I have it with me to this day - not that I
need it… but it connects me to him.
I think that’s one of the reasons
that we wear the poppy: It connects us to those who have shaped our lives… in
ways we recognize and in ways that we take for granted.
After I played the Last Post,
being a teenager, I decided to jazz it up a little… playing in the Music Room
by myself, I would a few riffs, flatten a couple of notes, improve the melody
and give it a better finish.. Bob heard
me playing and told me to stop. He was
almost angry.
“Leave it alone! It’s not meant
to be show stopper… it’s meant to be simple… it’s meant to mourn… and honour.”
I never fooled around with it
ever again. I always play it the way he
taught me.
All me to present some thoughts
around Remembrance Day in a similar vein.
Simple.
My father was born in 1939; he
didn't go to war.
I have never been called to
serve.
My children have never been
called to serve.
To those who have served, “Thank
You”.
That’s all any of us who wear a poppy
want to say. “Thank You”
The vets who wear the poppy are
saying “Thank You” to the soldiers who stood with them, those who fell in battle
and those who made it home… Thank You for your sacrifice; Thank You for standing with me.
The rest of us are saying “Thank
you” to the men and women who have
served and are serving: The families at home who worry around the clock; those who will always remember their child,
husband, wife, sister, brother, parent in uniform, because it was the last time
they saw them. The men and women who
stayed home and worked new jobs and extended hours to support the country in
times of war. The men and women who came
back and didn't know how to fit back into civilian life; the men and women who
helped others come “home” and fit in.
Remembrance Day is a time to mourn. We mourn those who didn't come home.
We mourn those who didn't get to
take us fishing, or see us graduate, come to our wedding… those who might be
forgotten if not for one day a year when we remember those who have served.
We mourn those who have come back
from active service, but are not the same people who left… the pain and burden they bear is so great…
too much for us to understand, sometimes too much for them to handle.
We mourn lost youth, because
everyone who has served has spent some of their youth on all of us.
We gather on Remembrance day to
honour. I don’t mean that we gather to
cheer on the soldiers, wave the Canadian
Flag in victory or glamourize war.
Honour. Not imagine or cheer; not celebrate "Canadian" victory.
Most veterans that I know are the
biggest advocates for peace: They don’t
want us at war, they don’t want their children at war. They went to war because their community
asked them to go and there seemed to be no other way - but they lived and died
in hope that we might find another way. We honour them as we try to find another way.
Some call them heroes. I don’t think that they are. Hero is a term that comes from ancient Greek
mythology in which there are Gods, Demi-Gods and Heroes. Gods are… well, they’re gods. Demi gods are half human half god and Heroes
are the humans who aspire to be gods.
The men and women that I know, who have been to war, never aspired to be
gods.
They aspired to be sons and daughters, husbands and wives, parents and grandparents, comrades and buddies, neighbours and friends; their greatest desire was to come home and make it possible for all of us to be sons and daughters, husbands and wives, parents and grandparents, comrades and buddies, neighbours and friends.
They aspired to be sons and daughters, husbands and wives, parents and grandparents, comrades and buddies, neighbours and friends; their greatest desire was to come home and make it possible for all of us to be sons and daughters, husbands and wives, parents and grandparents, comrades and buddies, neighbours and friends.
I believe this to be true of
nearly every soldier under any and every flag.
For the past decade, I have been the bugler at an IBEW community Remembrance Day service. Some wondered why I would play at an Electrical Workers Union instead of a local Legion. Well, to begin with, they asked me. Secondly, I admire the work that they do having veterans share their stories with school children and Finally, I admire the fact that many years ago, they opened up their Remembrance Day to veterans of any war, under any flag. It's about the men and women who have sacrificed, not about the winning of a war. On Remembrance Day, we recognize that nobody "wins" in war.
On Remembrance Day, I think about my father in law, who enlisted
because he wanted to fly planes… he had
no idea what it would really be like…and it was horrific. But he stayed. 1939 to 1945.
He doesn't talk about it much.
I think about family that served
in the Navy and Merchant Marine; the Great Uncle who floated I the English
Chanel for 24 hours and only complained that he got water in his watch.
I think about the Veterans that I
have come to know over the years, the stories that they've told me and
sometimes told ONLY me… I think that about the stories that they didn't tell me…
I think about the young man who
asked me to bless his sunglasses on his way back for a second tour in
Afghanistan…
And I don’t try to complicate any
of it with debate; I don’t try to fancy it up with politics, agendas or even
white poppies. I just take this time to
be thankful and to honour those who have given so much, by striving to find a
better way to justice than violence.
It’s the least that I can do.